Happy Memorial Weekend everyone! I am sorry if you have ever lost a loved one. If you have ever lost someone close, a small piece of your heart has been broken. As we have talked about before, death is inevitable. It happens; As crappy as it is to hear. Death is an unavoidable fact. No matter your beliefs, no matter your religion, no matter your race, people and things die. I am sorry for the amount of gloom/horror this post seems to have. I am sorry that this is the way things are. Truly I am sorry that this is a fact of life.
Even though things will never be the same after the death of a loved one. Even though it feels like your heart is being torn out. There is always something that can come out of it. There will always be memories. There will always be a piece of that person in you heart. As much as it hurts; there is still something you can do. After you are through grieving, find one part of that persons life, that made an impact on your life. Whatever it is, whatever it may be. There is a memory inside of that life that you can carry on and make an impact on the lives around you as well. If all you take away from the situation is “people die so do not get attached” you are missing out on something truly amazing.
Everyone leaves behind a valuable memory. Some people do amazing things, some were amazing people. What you should do, is make a list of things that have impacted your life. That person died but they also left you with a reason to live. Maybe the reason was to push you towards changing your life for the better. Maybe the reason was to show you how small your daily problems may really be. Maybe it is to show you that you should work on doing something amazing before you die. Your legacy and memories with it is all your family will have left when you are gone. So what will your memory be? What will you show people in your lifetime??
Death is one of the hardest concepts to accept. But you can not hide from it. In fact I believe that we can overcome our fear of death with the life promises that God has given us. There are so many reasons to live for a purpose. We have talked before about the “death thing” we have talked before about the “purpose thing”. But maybe the purpose of the death in your life is to create a purpose in someone else. I am not completely sure that has come out right. I sure hope you all do not take offense to that. My intentions are not to offend you, they are to share with you.
Unique Advice for Today: Everyone’s life has meaning, everyone’s life has a purpose. Some aren’t completely fulfilled until after death. It is our responsibility to find a reason so the person you are thinking about did not die in vain. They have made an impact on your life. What was it? Why should you be brave? What would you like to be remembered for? What is something about life that has changed your perspective?
Living and dying mean nothing, unless you give them a meaning. Give yourself, your descendants and your friends something to live for. Give them something to rise towards. Give people a reason worth remembering.
Each and every one of you are special. Each one of you are meant for something amazing! Never forget that. Do not live in fear of dying; Live for memories with a purpose.
And this world is fading away, and these evil, forbidden things will go with it, but whoever keeps doing the will of God will live forever.
1 John 2:17 TLB
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